Am I broken for not wanting to go back?

Am I broken for not wanting to go back?
I love this human being so much, but I can’t deal.
I’ve heard some of them call me manipulative or judgmental, but I was really just trying to get them to snap out of it.
My question is – is someone like that really able to change?
I really like her, but I don’t know how to approach this.
It’s so difficult to watch someone you care about shrink away and isolate themselves, not fully understanding what’s happening.
Brought together by their work, the staff members of the MOCHA Center are truly emblematic of what grassroots organization and community-building can be.
I don’t want to quit prematurely, but I don’t know how much longer I can do this.
It took two years and a committee of people to implement a workable solution to an often unrecognized need.
I don’t want to argue, or fight, or pretend things are okay when they’re not. I want out.
I thought I enjoyed helping people, but now I’m concerned that I was only doing this out of my own codependency and that all of my efforts were really self-serving in the long run.
My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost a year now, and let’s just say it’s not going well. It seems like we fight constantly about chores and who does what.