My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost a year now, and let’s just say it’s not going well. It seems like we fight constantly about chores and who does what.

My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost a year now, and let’s just say it’s not going well. It seems like we fight constantly about chores and who does what.
We’re not struggling and even do well financially, but money comes up almost daily, usually in the form of a lecture or berating me.
Whenever I am around my mother, she spends the entire time on her phone.
When my parents were my age, they were well-established and a lot more stable than I am now. For a while, I was on the same path, but in my late 20s everything kind of fell apart.
I’m seeing a man who is stuck in a relationship that is so entwined with his friends and living situation that we just pretend that part of his life doesn’t exist.
I hate my friend’s boyfriend.
I’m afraid to masturbate because I worry I’ll think of my emotionally painful last relationship.
A little over a month ago, I ended things with a woman I’d been seeing. There were many reasons as to why, but most of them fall under the “I don’t like how you treat me” umbrella.
I’ve noticed that some of my friends seem to bounce from one relationship to the next, often with no time in between. I’ve asked the more serious offenders about this, and they never really seem to know why they do this.
I have an issue that’s not about sex or relationships, but it’s still confusing and I’m hoping you can help.
We haven’t talked about anything inappropriate at all, but there’s still something that feels a little off about this whole thing.
While I’m proud of myself for making ME a priority, I feel really guilty and like I’m a bad friend.